Sometimes the only way to learn is through confusion. Confusion can be a friend who helps you figure out what is really the best path to take, even after you have made a life decision that seems to limit you to a specific commitment or direction. Through examining the details of your decision and the plans that follow, you can find the flaws in your plan—not flaws in your decision, but instead in its aftermath. So it was with me this week. It wasn't my decision that was faulty, but instead the manner in which I was acting it out. Because I am naturally very detail oriented (may have mentioned my slight propensity toward OCD here a time or two!) and I really like certainty (who doesn't?), I paid attention to my confusion and followed up on the details of my plan. Consequently, I have saved myself both a lot of money and the future regret that I certainly would have felt had my original plan been enacted.
Though it's perfectly normal to be confused in the decision-making process, typically confusion clears up after you've made your choice. When you remain confused, this can be a sign that something isn't what it seems. Wait. Take a step back from your decision and try to locate the exact source of your confusion. If you meditate on the situation as a whole, usually some one or two problem aspects come to the front where you can examine them and deal with them. In my case, my intuition acted to get my attention through confusion. As I examined the practical details, I found a problem in enough time to deal with it and not threaten my overall goal.
Intuition works in whatever way it must to get your attention. If you are like I am, being confused instead of relieved after my choice was unusual enough that it served as the Universe's attention-grabber. Never ignore your confusion, especially if it's annoying. It is trying to tell you that you have missed something or may be slightly off in your plans or direction.
Frequently, people get confirmation of a life direction in a reading but then want to know the exact steps to make a hoped-for outcome real. Sometimes I get direct and specific steps, but nearly as often I have to say, “You'll know. Take the first step, and you'll figure out the next step to take after that.” For me, confusion serves this purpose. I took the first step, then my confusion allowed me to fine-tune my direction, and I figured out the appropriate next step. I had to take the first step, however, before I could get direction on the second. That's how it may work for you too. Take that first step. Then listen for a possible course correction, then proceed.
Many times I also consult with folks who are in the midst of making a decision or who are fearful about committing to a decision. That situation is completely different—and a topic for another day. Here I'm talking about one way you can develop your intuition, so you can use it to help you with large decisions and also on a daily basis. In many ways, your intuition is like a muscle. As you use it, you strengthen it. As you strengthen it, you can depend on it to deliver more. And as you depend on it and it delivers, you continue to trust it, rely on it, and use it, making it stronger still. That's what we call a win-win in my business, people.
Please share any intuition stories you have in the Comments! Until next time, my friends...